4/28/2023 0 Comments The narcissists warped realityIn fact this is the very reason that the narcissist collapsed his or her True Self and created a False Self in its place. This has been the case for the narcissist from a very early age. To feel ‘wrong’ whilst trying to desperately prop up trying to ‘feel good enough’ is agonising. The intense ‘natural’ reaction for the narcissist is non-accountability. What this means is the narcissist’s mind – to protect the narcissist from narcissistic injury when triggered (which is regular) – takes distorted pathways rather than thinking ‘normally’. Know this – narcissists do not create their world healthily from their Inner Being unfolding out into life – their world is distorted, it is turned inside out – it operates from the outside in.īecause of this distortion the narcissist’s brain wiring is maladapted (mutated) to accommodate the False Self. To make sure someone is severely affected by the narcissist is valuable supply because it validates that the narcissist exists. And this is WHY it is so critical for a narcissist to ensure, create and maintain the type of narcissist supply that will allow him or her to repeatedly create a version of faux self-worth that is bearable. They are totally susceptible to feedback from the outer world to establish ‘an identity’. ![]() Narcissist’s don’t and can’t detach from other people’s assessment of them. The False Self has no ‘buffer’ of self-worth or self-acceptance to be criticised. If an individual knows who they are and does love and accept themself then they are able to detach from other people’s assessments – because this person is not precariously reliant on their approval or validation. This is why narcissists are constantly in need of narcissistic supply. ![]() The truth is a False Self has no ability to create or maintain these feelings for itself – it is an empty shell that forever needs ‘filling’, and it cannot receive outer information, settle on it and be ‘solidly’ at peace with this information. The False Self is incredibly insecure – its maintenance depends on getting regular ‘reminders’ that it is worthy, of value, and is acceptable. The False Self as an intense egoic construction seeks significance, approval and energy from ‘the outside’. The False Self is the ultimate defence mechanism which avoids self. The narcissist operates through a False Self which is an egoic construction. This is like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. The biggest mistake that we can ever make when trying to understand how narcissistic people operate is to assign our lens of ‘normal human behaviour’ onto what they do. The answer is not really simple – because I believe the answer is ‘yes’ and ‘no’…and also I believe there is grey area where we may not know the answer at times.īefore I get to the answer I want to explain to you how a narcissist’s mind operates and why they do what they do. ![]() Maybe you have asked yourself – Do narcissists know what they are doing? Do narcissist’s know how they hurt people? When I was in relationships with narcissists I was numb in disbelief, at the things they are capable of doing…
0 Comments
Leave a Reply. |
AuthorWrite something about yourself. No need to be fancy, just an overview. ArchivesCategories |